I am the first to admit, I probably have no business being on MySpace. I am old, and I am not promoting anything. I don’t have the crazy or cool background action going on my page or any audio / music files. (And I don’t want to). I can’t stand the amount of spam, or being assaulted with ‘friend requests’ by total strangers. Therefore it is a rarity that you will find me ‘online’ on MySpace. Although, I am not knocking the website at all, nor am I trying to insult anyone who is a fan and / or user of the site.
However My MySpace account has really been good for One Thing. Finding the people I love, and have lost touch with. For instance, it has brought together many a Cascadian.
A recent, perfect example, of a good experience I have had on MySpace, was when I discovered a long lost beloved friend of mine. Danny.
When I first saw his profile, I started to get a bit choked up. I was in shock. Could it really be him? Or were my eyes just playing tricks on me? We had been close friends for at least 12 years. I mean, we were like brother and sister close. He ‘lived with me’ for a number of years. Even after he had moved away, when he came ‘home’ it was always to my house, never to his parents. He was a crucial friend in my life during some of the most painful and some of the most glorious parts of my past. In fact, he is a pivotal character in ‘the book’.
Unfortunately, around 6 years ago, we had a nasty falling out, and subsequently lost touch. Neither one of us were in the best stages of our lives, and when things became way too toxic it was best for both of us to go on our separate paths.
What is funny to me is that, we both went down the same sort of path, at different times, on our own, and yet have currently landed in the same place. New Beginnings.
I am really excited about this. (And just a little nervous. Why? I have no idea.) We have been emailing each other and talked on the phone a few times. The first time I heard his voice, I couldn’t wipe the smile off of my face. It was as if some part of me that had been missing returned. I am REALLY looking forward to seeing him in person to play catch up. There is just too much to talk about over the phone or via email.
On the other hand, talking with him has opened the proverbial door to my past and the floodgates have released a deluge of long since forgotten memories. (Maybe that’s where my nervousness is coming from.)
But, I want to take this trip down memory lane. I think I need to. I know some things are better left locked up tightly in the vault of the back of our minds, but this isn’t one of those times, and this certainly isn’t one of those people.
About Meleah
Mother. Writer. Television Junkie. Pajama Jean Enthusiast.
Yeah I pretty much hate myspace for all the same reasons you do, but for people who did make connections in H.S. and such, its a great way to find friends. I am so happy I forwarded his profile to you, I know how much he meant to your life!! This rocks, I can’t wait til the crying “first hug”, you’re looking forward to having with him accompanied by a nice meal & maybe a few good hours of reminiscing. xox.
I totally agree with you about My Space. I feel old!! I am on it also though and found friends I hadn’t seen or talked to in years. I also use it to network with local wedding planners for cakes and such. I am so glad to hear that you found your friend. I hope that you can put the falling out behind you and move forward. How exciting!! I can’t wait to hear how it goes 🙂
That is brilliant. I really hope you can rekindle the friendship. I’m sure he’ll be delighted to see you again.
BFF:
I am going to see him THIS weekend. I am sofa king EXCITED! 🙂
Chef Mom:
Right? I feel like one of those ‘cougar’ types being all on MySpace, but hey…It is good for somethings.
Selma:
We have been talking and emailing and NOW I cant wait to see him.
Sounds good to me…. in fact I kinda feel excited for you 😉
Keep us updated!
Isn’t that great? I bet you guys picked up right where you left off. Have fun reconnecting with each other. Second chances don’t always happen!
Ditto to all you said. From my experience though, the facebook is a far better place to reconnect but it could just be me. 🙂
That’s a nice success story for you and your friend Meleah. Hope things work out this time, sounds like it will and you have a lot to catch up on I’m sure 🙂
Dawn:
Thanks woman. You know I will keep yall posted.
Mimzie:
I feel really LUCKY to have found him again.
Amina:
Im not a big fan of Facebook either.
Rolando:
I cant wait. I cant wait. We have SOOOO much to talk about.
I hate MySpace but stories like this make it worth it. Open up the floodgates. I’m glad you found each other.
You are NOT old.
Not an online social networks persons I guess. 🙂
Ricardo:
Yep. The ONLY reason I am ON MySpace is for REASONS like this one!
Amina:
I like Cre8Buzz (a lot), and I like Blog 365, and a FEW other social networking sites. But Facebook & MySpace just dont feel like ‘home’ to me….yanno? I feel OUT OF PLACE and OLD AS “PASKA” in that arena.
Oh awesome! That rocks. It’s always exciting and scary to find new friends. I can’t wait to hear how it goes!
I’ve never done the MySpace thing, but I am on FaceBook. I have no idea why. We’ll just say peer pressure. A few blasts from the past have found me through it though. I’m glad you were able to reunite with this important friend from your past. It’s a good thing!
Well, the last reunion I went to didn’t turn out so good for moi….so I hope this one turns out much better for YOU! Let me know if you’d like any extra support! 😉
xoxoxo
Leslie:
I will keep you updated! I cant wait til tomorrow!
Michael C:
A very good thing
Olga:
I hope so tooo! I am mildly trepidatious
I have a few people like that in my past. But since they have had ample opporunity to contact me I won’t get my hopes up.
Hopefully you guys will be able to rekindle a great friendship.
NO EFFIN WAY TO ANY OF THOSE SITES FOR ME SWEETCHEEKS. NOT HAPPENING IN THIS LIFETIME.
I ENJOY WHAT LITTLE PRIVACY I REALLY HAVE WAY TOO MUCH AT THIS POINT. LIVE AND LET LIVE I SAY TO THOSE WHO FIND JOY ON THOSE SITES. MORE POWER TO YA!!!!
I KNOW THAT SOMETHING IS LEADING YOU TO REKINDLE AND REVISIT THOSE PAINFUL DOORS LEFT AJAR AND HEAL SOME SCARS ,SEAL SOME OPEN WOUNDS,THAT YOU NEVER DREAMED ,MIGHT HEAL, AFTERALL. oR THE ONES YOU CHOOSE TO LOCK UP FOR WHATEVER REASONS YOU LIKE TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM THINGS YET UNKNOWN. I CAN RELATE TO THAT.
THIS JUST MAY BE ONE OF THOSE OPPORTUNITIES GIFTED YOUR WAY FOR REASONS YET UNKONWN.
AND IF NOT YOU WILL STILL HAVE PLENTY TO TALK ABOUT AND IT SOUNDS AS IF YOU TWO HAVE MORE IN COMMON NOW THAN EVER BEFORE.
I WISH YOU BOTH THE BEST.
LOVE YA BUNCHES:0)
XOXOXO
OLLY
Oliver Hans Straube
jesus, relax with the caps olly.
have a great time tomorrow. it’s always good to walk down memory lane.
Memories are one of the jewels of life…some you wear with honour others you store in a box..but it’s good to look in that box now and again and retrieve one that is close to your heart…Good Luck…and enjoy
Goodness Gracious! This is AWESOME!
YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂
And your last para is so well said.
So lift your head up, march down the lane with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child.
You will have a fanstantic ride.
well i for one fully beleive in walking down memory lane… especially the rocky ones!!!!!
I had a facebook account for a bit…caught up with some people…but then some people I didn’t want to remember tracked me down too…lol.
I think it’s cool that you’ve made contact with him again…he’s a cutie too!
Hammer:
I hope so too. Thanks dood.
Olly:
I know how you feel about all of these ‘websites’…hahahha xxoo
JP:
HA HA! Finally someone said something about CAPS LOCKS abuse!
Robert:
Thank you. I am very excited and nervous and all of that jazz. BTW I had a BLAST stalker reading your archives today. WOW.
RMH:
Thanks darling.
Paisley:
ME TOO! HA HA! Let the memories come knocking.
Drowsey:
He IS a cutie. He always has been.
And that is ONE of the MANY bad things about myspace & facebook the people you DONT like / want back in your life can FIND YOU TOO….. ugh!
Happy New Year! Glad you had a super time with Olga The Traveling Bra. The photos were so much fun. Cheers!
Wow, JP! WOW.
If i would have said what JP said at 251 pm, it would have been an all out war with Olly! I thought I’d learned to accept Ollys abusive CAPS LOCK comments but seeing as how Jp feels the same way its come to my attention again like an ever so slightly opened wound. I’d also like to take this opportunity to point out that Ollys CAPS LOCK ABUSE is one, I mean THE ONLY reason I stopped coming back to the mommamia site hours after leaving my comment to see if there was a response to my comment. In other words, I used to come and check to see if Meleah wrote a lil something for me, but Ollys disregard for everyone else on the blog made me second guess myself. I thought it would be less painful to not go to the mommamia site than go and be abused by olly.
Im kinda of kidding but more than halfway not. I say this because I was the Caps Lock Abuser, the only one, I STILL AM. I just learned that its offensive and unnecessary and I was forced, I mean I am only allowed to do it in personal emails. So maybe it just hurts to see someone else get away with it for so long and have it right before my naked steaming eyes.
The whole thing upsets me deeply. Thanks to JP, I’ve rediscovered MY struggle with Ollys “Caps Lock wrath”
Thanks to JP I’m now more aware than ever that archived on countless pages throughout my bestfriends site SOMEONE ELSES CAPS LOCK COMMENTS WILL FOREVER STANDOUT MORE THAN MINE, and that someone else gets to be witty about letting him know.
This sucks!
I’m torn on MySpace, myself. It allows us to be hedonistic and self-centered, wasting hours telling people who already know us what we want them to think about us. BUT, it helped me reconnect and have dinner last week with three girlfriends from kindergarten! And we picked up without missing a beat.
I hope your meeting goes smoothly. If you weren’t nervous about it, than it probably wouldn’t be something worth doing.
I hope this trip down memory lane turns out well for you.
Theresa111:
Thank you! You too! xxoo
Lis:
I have a good feeling about the whole thing.
Exposed:
Yep. I am torn on MySpace…I have an account. I like what you said…”If you weren’t nervous about it, than it probably wouldn’t be something worth doing.” Now THATS the TRUTH.
Jennifer:
RELAX.
Who better to reconnect with than someone who knew all you went through, and was there for you? It’s sad you had a falling out, but I think it can be better in the long run, too, to have had the time apart and to grow as individuals. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that this will work out for both of you!
Avery:
Thank you! 🙂
I bet you’ll feel an inordinate amount of peace – and probably a little …relief in a way. Its tough when you fall out with someone who means that much to you. But when you’re able to come back together in a healing way, there’s just nothing more rewarding on so many levels.
wtf.
had i known there was some deep rooted meaning behind caps I might have avoided them and turned out a better man than I already have become.LOL
what’s all this attention about caps any-hoot?
clue me in someday on the do’s and dont’s please.
MEANWHILE……………
HAVE A DAY!!!
XOXOXO
Oh Olly!
Its OKAY. You didnt know the correct blog etiquette. Bbut…For the record….I am the only one that is allowed to ‘abuse’ caps locks in my posts and comments. 🙂
I still Love You.
awww
xxoo
Ditto
That’s so fantastic that you reconnected with a friend. I know there is a lot of sucking that goes on at Myspace (literal and otherwise) but it is good for these sorts of encounters.
I hope you have a great first visit with your old friend.