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  • When I figure it out I’ll surely let you know. My voices tell me all sorts of crazy things. But that doens’t mean I’m crazy. Or wait maybe it does, but whose to say. Oh yah the voices that’s right.

    Stop listening to them and get back to writting…:)

  • dcr

    My current “desk” chair at home is a folding metal chair with two foam pads that don’t really make it much more comfortable.

    The chair before that was better and I don’t recall any problems with it, but it eventually broke. (I got it used and I think it dates back to the seventies.)

    At least YOU’ve accomplished something this century. 😉

  • Meleah

    Momo Fali:
    Yeah…SCREW THEM.
    That is CRIMINAL!
    I think you deserve it
    And YOU ARE BETTER THAN GOOD ENOUGH.
    You are AWESOMENESS.

    DeboHobo:
    Ahahhaahahah. Aw. Thanks sweety. I actually DID some writing yesterday and today for both my book and for my other blog Melevision. It felt good!

    DCR:
    Metal Folding Chair? YIKES. That must be awful to work from! I feel so bad for you! And I’m SURE you can list at least 3 things that YOU have accomplished this century. I know you worked more on YOUR own writing [the outline and such] so that’s ONE right there.

  • Have you tried hanging up on your inner voices?

  • I’m not sure there’s much more I can say that hasn’t already been said here. Just wanted to reassure you that you are most definitely NOT alone in those feelings.

  • I don’t have time right now to read the other comments, but this is what I have to say.

    You are who you are and can’t change that.

    You are a person of value with a unique story to be told and only you can tell it.

    It may not be easy and it may take time, but it’s worth it.

  • Meleah

    MMP:
    I will now!

    Terri:
    Thank you sweety.

    Employee No 3699:
    That was a PERFECT thing to say and exactly what I needed to hear!

  • don’t know mel, sometimes it’s hard to quiet that negative voice in your head. i think we all go through this at some point in time. easier said, you just can’t stay there and listen to it too much.

    i love your writing, it’s quite captivating. so you have to get over that one and press on.

    you can replace the negative voice with the positive voice. why me? why not me!

  • Nope.

    You’re the only person that hears them.

    Freak.

    You’re welcome.

  • Meleah

    Natural:
    I’d much rather listen your your voice!
    [OH, and, I have been writing again! YAY].

    Mooog35:
    AhahahahHAHHAAhha
    Yay. Now I feel so much better!
    🙂

  • Meleah, you are NOT the only one who has to fight off an inner monologue of negative thoughts. I completely feel you on this. Sometimes it takes one negative thought, or comment from someone else, and I can tail spin, doubt myself, my abilities and my determination. When I’m in that mind frame, it’s easy to discover millions of people who are better than I am at everything. that knowledge makes me want to crawl into bed and not even try.

    It usually takes a few days for me to pull myself together. I’ve learned to make myself stand in front of a mirror and do the “positive affirmation” thing – even though I feel like an idiot telling myself I’m amazing, a good writer, that I have everything I need to be successful. But it does work. I read a great book – Louise Hay wrote it. It’s called “You Can Heal Your Life.” It’s an amazing read and I highly recommend it.

    Hang in there. All the BEST writers hit road blocks. Scout’s honor.

    Big love, H

  • Lately I have been feeling negative too- for almost a week. It comes and goes and you just have to fight it. If I was positive and optimistic this week- I would have something better to say, maybe a tidbit of good advice or something more, but since I am sort of in the same funky boat… that’s about all you get from me.

  • Meleah

    Heather:
    I cant even tell you HOW much your comment MEANS to me Honestly, when I read your comment I kept nodding my head YES YES YES the whole time, because what you said, is exactly what I go through.

    And then I laughed because I would feel like an idiot in the mirror too, but if it works? Im willing to TRY ANYTHING! Thank you SO much for making me feel better, and for the book suggestion. You are one awesome writer and an even more amazing woman. Thank you! [a million times]

    Michelle:
    And that was ENOUGH from you. I’m sorry you are feeling this way too. This feeling and these thoughts are not such a good time. I think YOU are awesome and I love ‘hanging’ out with you on FB. xoxoxo

  • Hey Sweetie. Sometimes we need re-assurance. We all tend to be negative in order to pick out things we may thing others may not like. Its a need for attention, love and acknowledgement. You are a beautiful woman. We all do this. you are just one of the few that admit it. Like me.

    Smile you have more positives than negatives I can assure you.

    O

  • Meleah

    Oscar:
    Thank you for that much needed pick me up!
    🙂

  • Meleah

    I am putting an email I received on 06/08/09from a wonderful friend and extremely talented writer [here in the comments] so that I can read it whenever I hear those stupid voices telling me negative things. This way I can remind myself that I am awesome:

    Here is the email from the amazing Selma:
    ———————–

    Hey Meleah,
    I’m going to be perfectly honest with you because you are a friend, but also because I think you’ve got the goods.

    YOUR BOOK IS AWESOME. AND IF IT DOESN’T GET PUBLISHED I WILL LITERALLY FALL OVER FROM SHOCK.

    Your story is what a lot of editors and publishers are looking for today. It is gritty, real and also inspirational.

    When I read your first chapter I breathed a huge sigh of relief because I thought: ‘Thank God, she can actually write.’ I knew you had the story, I knew you could write from reading your blog, but as you will have found out, turning all that into an actual book is very, very difficult.

    You have a natural, conversational style and a genuine, sincere tone that allows you to achieve what many more experienced writers cannot and that is – the reader cares what happens to you and to your other characters. You can’t learn how to do that. You can either do it or you can’t.

    Your subject matter is very relevant, sometimes shocking, sometimes enlightening. It also has the added bonus that a publisher will like of being able to translate well to film.

    I’m going to tell you why your book works so you will see the traps
    others fall into and why it can be awkward to tell someone they just
    can’t write. But hon, I can assure you, that is never going to happen
    to you. You got the goods, baby.

    1. You are telling the story in chronological sequence. You might
    think this is the most obvious point ever, but you wouldn’t believe
    how many people DON’T do it. The advantage of this is that the reader
    always knows exactly where they are and they don’t need to constantly
    backtrack to try and figure out what is happening.

    2. Your characters are relevant to the story. Again, this is a
    pitfall for many writers. They have all these extra characters that
    don’t actually do anything. They just take up space and distract the
    reader from the plot.

    3. The roles of the characters are well-defined. They contribute to
    the book. They drive the plot.

    4. You are very good at setting the scene. Scene and location are
    important in a book but you don’t need to use a lot of flowery
    language to describe them. You have used scene very well to emphasize
    for example, the sleaziness of the bar and so on. I don’t have your
    manuscript in front of me but I think you described Craig once as
    having grease stains on his clothes from the fryers in the kitchen
    and I immediately thought ‘Hurrah” because that is an extremely
    effective technique. You are able to use one little phrase to let the
    reader know how something looks. People go to writing classes for
    years to learn how to do that.

    5. Your character names are appropriate for the theme of the book –
    Jasmine, Midnight. Very well chosen.

    6. You have achieved continuity. This is very important in a book.
    The flow of the narrative must be consistent. You can’t suddenly
    change tense halfway through, or change a character’s name or talk
    about something that hasn’t happened yet. You might be surprised to
    learn that this is the single biggest mistake writers make when
    writing a book or novel. I was very impressed you got it on the first
    go.

    7. The reader wants to learn more. A crucial, crucial point. At no
    stage while reading any of your chapters have I thought :’I can’t
    wait for this to be over.’ It was riveting writing.

    I hope this has made you realise that you can write and you are onto
    something with incredible potential. I would never tell you your book
    was good if it wasn’t because I respect you far too much for that.

    You will need to get a copy edit ( which is mostly a check for
    grammar and punctuation) done when you have finished it completely
    and you may want to write a second or third draft. But that is a
    minor detail that every single writer on the planet goes through.

    I have so much faith in your book. I will help in any way I can.
    Please don’t hesitate to ask.
    I just want you to know that you can write and the effort you are
    putting in now will be worth it.
    Don’t give up.
    All my love,
    Sel
    xxxx

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