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  • Eva

    First of all, you have more comments than I have Facebook friends. What is up with that? I think you’re popular. 🙂

    Secondly, I say First Person. It engages the reader more, in my opinion. And just because you write it in the first person doesn’t mean you can’t take some creative liberties with the story, you know.

    I read the first chapter of your book online and I am totally engaged. I think you have a great story in your head that begs to be published. Keep that spite bottled up nice and tight, and let it motivate the hell out of you! Good luck Miss M!

  • That is great as a compromise. It leaves great room for creativity. I’m loving it.

  • What do I think? I think you should write it the way you want to write it. This is YOUR book… don’t let anyone else tell you how to express yourself. Personally, I enjoy reading a person’s story when they tell it as themselves. It seems to hit home more that way. I’m pretty sure there are others who feel the same way. 🙂

  • Meleah, I ran into your blog through reading a friends blog all the time and just couldn’t stop reading. I spent an entire day reading all your stories once I saw your blog. I never commented until this post, didn’t want you to think I was some weirdo! I too am a single mom and my daughter is 16. I have gone through many struggles personally and raising a child on my own. I can relate to so much you write about. Keep inspiring some of us out here!!!!!!! You keep some of us going.

  • Meleah

    I am sticking with First Person!

    Thank you!

    Okay. Now you are just making me blush and get all kinds of teary eyed!

  • Donna

    There is a video on youtube called Dog Years. It is narrated by the dog..well, a british mans voice is the dog…anyway my point is, first person is so much more effective, more personal.

    I like what I have read so far as you have written it. But you could write with chalk on a sidewalk and I would read it.

  • Meleah

    But you could write with chalk on a sidewalk and I would read it.”

    Now that is one hellova compliment.
    That made my whole week!

  • Donna

    *tosses M some chalk. 😉

  • Totally first person girl…great decision!

  • Meleah


    *meleah starts testing her sidewalk writing skillz*

    Done Deal.

  • I prefer the first person as well… it is your story and third person seems in away like being detached.

    I find this whole thing weird. Not you- him. I don’t believe it had one thing to do with telling your story and you told me in a comment he does not have some else lined up. SO I am still scratching my head as to what the real reason is for this break up.

    Unfortunately I have found out in real life- unlike movies and books we don’t always get to see the whole picture and sometimes we are left guessing why things don’t work out. Not just with romantic issues, but I know girlfriends that scratch there heads why they lost a friend or drifted apart from someone.

    Sometimes I think not knowing what the real deal is- makes it harder and more confusing… I hope this makes sense. Perhaps I am just rambling- but I still feel like I am missing a piece of this whole puzzle and I would like to ring it out dudes neck???

  • First of all, your male friend was very wise in his thinking that the book would scare away all the losers and you’d be left only with the guys worth knowing. Give him a hug from me for being so dang smart! And second, I think if you were going to go fictional with your story then the third person would be better. But I like how you want to keep it real and I think that is the best way to keep it because it truly is your story. I like that it would be first person and readers could see things from your point of view and through your eyes, not as if watching from a distance. That’s my opinion but it is YOUR book and I would support whatever way you need to write it, my dear. 🙂

  • Meleah

    Michelle G:
    The not knowing has been making me CRAZY. Absolutely NUTS.

    After yet another exhausting week filled with head games, phone calls, and mysterious texts, all of which were laced with convoluted mixed messages, I just about went over the deep end. Then, I re-read all of your comments, and summoned my own inner strength.

    After being asked to meet him, more than likely for a ‘booty call’ , I sent a text message that said, “Do You Even Care About What I Have To Say, OR, Am I Just Wasting My Time Making A Fool Of Myself”.

    [yeah yeah, I know. That was way too vulnerable. But I am SICK of the games. That’s how I truly felt so that’s what I really said.]

    Then, of course, in typical fashion, I heard nothing for 48 hours.

    And that’s when I finally had enough.

    The last text message I sent was on Thursday at 6:45pm.

    I needed to close the door on this whole mess once and for all. I cant stand the knots in my stomach anymore. I decided to “LET HIM GO” and all of the dreams and promises that came along with him.

    I simply said,

    “Since you obviously do not care about what I have to say, or you are too chicken shit to hear it…I am not going to bother you anymore. And please, do not bother me anymore. Okay. Thanks. Bye.”

    Now I can say it is officially over.

    I will not be taking any more phone calls. I will not be accepting anymore text messages. I will not sit home pondering and wondering or make myself miserable over what could have been.

    And at least I feel like I walked away on my own terms.

    [Sort of.]

    I will never fully get the closure I so wanted. I will never get the answers to my questions as to WHAT, HOW or WHY he went from wanting to be with me All The Time to abruptly ending things the way he did.

    And I am okay with that.

    [Sort Of.]

    Thank you for your support. I am going to write this book in First Person, and say that it is LOOSELY BASED on my life story. How is that for a compromise!

  • I see I’m very late here.. but I think you should keep it as the first person, it’s your life, your experiences and it’s true and real.

    I know those that read it will become totally immersed in what you have to say and many will learn and benefit from this.. Good Luck 🙂

  • I prefer the first person as well. I would feel more engaged and part of the writer. I’m glad there is no one standing in the way of what you have to do. It was meant to be this way for now.

  • Meleah

    Its never too late to comment over here. And thank you for your kind words.


  • OH MY- He is wacky and being cruel. Good for you and keep up the resolve !

    He obviously does not know what he wants and has head screwed on the wrong way!!!

    I have zero tolerance for emotional games…. period. I tend to think people who play them have some sort of ego trip.

  • Success is the best revenge. It focuses on the positive and not the negative. It’s all about you. As far as the book goes (that would be the success part…) there are lots of ways to publish your own book now, and many have been extremely successful in all their very raw glory. You need to write it the way you feel comfortable writing it. Period. No fiction. It’s fact. And people are lapping it up these days.

  • First person.
    The one and ONLY!
    Accept NO substitutes!

  • What I have read of your book is facsinating. I do like the 1st person. However, it is actually a great writing exercise to write it in the 3rd person — sometimes you see things differently and it improves your writing. I am so sorry about the man who couldn’t take who you are. Don’t regret being you…ever.

  • Meleah

    I am exhausted from the head games. Im so done with him and all of the drama!

    “and many have been extremely successful in all their very raw glory.”


    Okay woman. Okay. I trust you

    Im trying not to beat myself up over what he did to me.
    Im thrilled to hear you liked what you have read so far.

  • If you feel that “I”s of first person bar you, you could try second person. That’s still acceptable in nonfiction, and could still be yours.

    (See, this degree was useful for something;)

  • Never let anyone stand in the way of your accomplishments. Write the book. I’ll buy it. In fact, if you are going to self-publish, I know someone that can help you. Nothing is standing in your way! 🙂

  • Meleah

    I’m just going to run with my original instincts and gut feeling on this one. What ever happens happens.
    I need to get me one of those degree things!

    You are 100% right about that.

  • I’ve known you for so long, and asking for advice all the time is one way you undermine your self and slow yourself down. Stop over thinking it and procrastinating and write the book already. It doesn’t even have to a) be good or b) make sense. That’s why they call it a ROUGH draft. It’s YOUR story, you know it, quit dicking around and either tell it so you can get to draft to and final edit and publish it and push people to get help if they have a similar one or find something else to do that doesn’t keep you so wound up and unsure all the time, for what, three years of this process now, anyway? XOXO

  • Meleah

    And THIS is why YOU are FOREVER my big sister.

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