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Processing And Acceptance


I guess it took me a little longer than I expected to really process and accept these new changes in my office. By nature I am a fighter, and I tend to resist all things new. That is one of my innate flaws. Much like that elusive ‘dignity’ I have yet to master.


Alas, the ‘new’ co-workers on my ‘new’ floor have really gone out of their way to make me feel at home and comfortable in my new surroundings. (Even though I still go back upstairs to my ‘home base’ for the coffee and the bathroom.) Everyone has been really helpful with answering all of my questions, and they have boosted my confidence in my ablity to handle this type of work load.


Much to my surprise, I have been given several unsolicited compliments from both the Office Manager and the Commercial Lines Supervisor about my impressive job performance over the last week and a half. (I just about fainted.)


I started thinking, if I am that good at a job I don’t even like, imagine how I would perform doing a job that I loved?


Anyway. I am happy to report my funkiness is certainly passing as I have come to accept this is where I work, this is what I do as a job (for now). I am reminding myself this is only a temporary change and the rest of my life needs not be affected by such.


Thanks to all of you for your amazing support, wonderful comments, and lovely emails. Thank you all  for reminding me that I am not defined by “WHAT I DO FOR A LIVING” but I am defined by, “HOW I LIVE MY LIFE OUTSIDE OF THE WORK PLACE.”


I will be spending time this week, focused on enjoying that part of my life. I am back to blogging. I am back to writing. I am back to reading. I am back to stalking all of your pages. And, I am back to the land of the living.




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  • I’m so glad. I’ve said it before – you would be an asset to any business. It’s great that your co-workers are showing their appreciation, and wonderful that you’re feeling better.

  • welcome back….

  • Ingrid

    Yay! It’s good to see you in good spirits.

  • She’s Back. World look out.

    It’s great that you are getting such great support. And to think you were so hard on yourself and you are actually doing a good job in the eyes of the folk around you.

    Glad your spirits have been lifted and that your value of self and family is greater than that job. Not that it was in question.

    You’re a wonderful person. Continue to be you.

  • I am so glad you’re back amongst the land of the living. I don’t think I could handle you being a zombie! heh

    Don’t ever stop being you!

  • Meleah

    I cannot wait to read all of the blog posts I’ve missed on yuour sight!
    Love you

    Thanks darling

    Missed you girl!

    Thanks sweety. Its amazing how much weight a few compliments did for me. I feel MUCH better. And its a short week = bonus!

    I prmoise to stay just the way I am!!

  • Glad to hear your funkiness is passing….though I think you might be passing it to me. But mine could just be PMS.

  • the best friend

    Coolnes. I’m glad the “funkiness” is over. You do great at whatever you’re doing. I’m proud dood. I like that you still go to “home base”, thats cute.

  • Glad to you that you’re doing well.
    Btw, unsolicited compliments are so great, and if you have more, pass some here, I feed on them 🙂 in all seriousness, you’re doing a great job Meleah.

  • CBG

    meleah I am very glad to see that things are looking better than they where a week ago, Because you really ..shall we say “Were Not Happy At First” (total understatement) And not only are you happier, People who you didn’t get along with are starting to see your work and respect you for fighting through these set backs. Glad you are back to blogging (gives me something to do at work and school). Keep it up Mel. Its funny all these stressful things that come your way that scare the hell out of you and go against you and brings you outside your comfort-zone, You defeat.
    Thats says alot ! Keep doing what your doing because it’s working.

  • I knew you could do it. You just needed the time to acclimate. Welcome back!

  • glad you are feeling better

    I started thinking, if I am that good at a job I don’t even like, imagine how I would perform doing a job that I loved? I KNOW THE FEELING.

    i’M A FREAKING secretary. if my work defined me, well i wouldn’t be sitting upright at the moment. IT PAYS, that’s all i need to know for now.

    same with you. temporary. besides you’re a fabulous writer and your book will be out early next year and then you can say buh bye.

  • Meleah

    Mrs Schmitty:
    Funkiness + PMS = Not Good Times.
    Hang in there woman.
    I’ll drop by your blog with some love tonight!

    Dood. “Home Base” is KEY.
    So is the upstairs coffee.

    I cant wait to rattle off the seven billion comments I have for you on your blog tonight. I am watching the clock until I get home to visit all my blogger buddies. You just happen to be one my favorites!

    Yeah. Um, at first, the idea of veering off into oncoming traffic was my only source of comfort!

    Its funny all these stressful things that come your way that scare the hell out of you and go against you and brings you outside your comfort-zone, You defeat.Thats says alot !”

    That means alot to me. I know how much you have grown to respect me, and THAT is ever so important.

    Im so glad to be feeling better!

    Oh *fingers crossed* my book will be my 1st step to a life not chained to an OFFICE desk!! (or a PC) Thanks for being one of my biggest supporters through all of this. I cant wait to get home tonight and sink my teeth into your blog.

  • Thank goodness you’re “BACK”! YAY…happy times! All my wishes have been granted. 🙂


    “No matter your position at work…your position in life is always the most important one and nobody can replace you in your position in life. Live it…love it…and all the light of the world will shine through you for it.”

    That’s by me girl…that’s my quote…written for Miss Meleah who just got back from her hiatus. 🙂 Hope you dig it!


    Look out everybody…she’s baaack! 😉

  • I knew you could do it 🙂

  • bad funks suck. (currently in one; meds adjustment…ugh)

    I always say momentary dips in the pitty pool (or whatever) are healthy because in order to get out of that funk, it forces you look all that you have accomplished instead of the ONE thing that you can’t…ya’ know??


  • We knew you could come out on top; you just had to start believing it yourself.

  • Yay! I’m so glad to hear things are better. I was worried about you!

  • Meleah

    Thats a wonderful awesome kick ass print and save kinda quote.
    Hellz Yeay.

    I think? I owe you a tag?
    said the bad blogger

    Thanks dood.
    BTW? How have you been?
    Shit. I really need to catch up.

    I know ALL about medication adjustments.
    They are “The Worst”.
    They are even more horrible then a change in jobs.
    My heart (and love) go out to you.
    Big. Time.
    I will be reading every word I’ve missed these last however many days its been.

    Thats exactly what my MOM said!

    Momo Fali:
    I was worried about me too.
    OMFG I am dying to read YOUR blog.
    I can’t wait to read the latest about your son & daughter…
    Very few people make me laugh the way you do.
    Maybe thats why I’ve been so funky?
    No MOMO fix!

  • focus on what you enjoy, the stuff you don’t will fade away…

    probably. do what i *say*, not what i do…

  • “I started thinking, if I am that good at a job I don’t even like, imagine how I would perform doing a job that I loved?” Precisely my dear. So glad you’re feeling better, Sweetie.

  • me.olly


  • Jen

    Awww Meleah. I knew you’d be okay eventually. I think we all go through these rough spots – especially after a big CHANGE in our lives.

    Thank you all for reminding me that I am not defined by “WHAT I DO FOR A LIVING” but I am defined by, “HOW I LIVE MY LIFE OUTSIDE OF THE WORK PLACE.”

    Now that is exactly the advice I felt was most important to share….now you’ll always remember that life starts after 5pm until you get to persue your dream.

    I may also do job that isn’t my dream but it pays the mortgage…and in addition it gives me enough cash after that to buy the things that do make me happy for the hobby I love.

    Keep your chin up, my friend. You are a great spirit!

  • Meleah

    Its impossible to take your OWN advice!!

    Woman, I dont know what I would have done these last few days/weeks without you and Anna helping me, supporting me, grounding me, and reinforcing the beauty of the friendships in my life….
    I’m making my way to your blog TONIGHT!
    xxoo xxoo


    Life totally starts AFTER 5pm. Thank YOU for teaching me that. We have a wonderful weekend planned! (and thats what really matters)

  • Yay!

    I never doubted you 🙂

  • That’s the spirit, welcome back Meleah 😀

  • I SO NEEDED my melz time on the phone tonight. Thanks love. It’s been too, too long 🙂 I MISS YOU

  • Meleah

    Thanks doll!

    Glad to be back

    That was soooo neccesary!

  • Tiffany

    Pig Roast after work!!!! Red Bank fireworks!!! WOOOHOOOO!

  • I was told at a staff meeting at work that ,”Most people resist change.” Of course they told us this before announcing some major changes.

  • Meleah


    Of course!

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