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  • well see there… watched some video the other day about the difference between men and womens brains,,, “mens brains” it makes a lot of very simple sense,, and i believe could help to spare you the melt down… well part of it anyway… if this or something similar should happen again….. enjoy

  • Lis

    *Hugs*

  • Good, I hope things work out.

    I floated over from Terri.

  • What a relief! I’m the same way, better at writing to get my point across then actually saying it. I get to emotional to quickly and jump to instant conclusions and accusations, just by the other persons tone. I am SO GLAD that you will remain friends. Danny seems like a great guy, who understands where you’ve been and what you need to do for yourself. I believe that you will remain friends because of that. HUGS!!!

  • I’m so glad you got the reaction you needed. Now just concentrate on taking care of you.

  • I’m happy that the two of you are able to remain friends, I can tell it was important to you to be able to do so. Don’t feel bad about having to write your feelings out in written word. I’ve always done that too.

  • Meleah

    Paisley:

    Thanks darling… 🙂

    Lis:

    Right back at you. xxoo

    Reggie:

    Hi nice to *meet you* Terri is great….Welcome to the madness that is my head.

    Chef Mom:

    Here’s hoping it all turns out THAT way.

    I know we BOTH need some ‘space’ right now…maybe a few days (weeks? months?) to transition out of the relationship back into friendship.

    Terri:

    Thats exactly what I intend to do.

    Anti Barbie:

    I get too worked up too fast in conversations… I need to write it out then, read & re-read and use the delete / backs pace button OFTEN. Otherwise people end up the recipient of an emotional tirade and thats NOT cool.

  • it is always great to get this kind of reaction. i’m so glad you get to keep a friend. nice.

  • I am like you expect the worst and it can only go up from there. So glad things worked the way you wanted. Hugs

  • Meleah

    Holly:

    Me TOO

    Beth:

    Oh I am THE WORST CASE SCENARIO queen! Its awful.

  • Hugs. I found you a present – you can listen to it when you get home. For people with speakers they can hear it now:

    http://smokeringsandcoffeestains.com/?p=531

    Jersey’s new theme song – REPREZENT!

    hahahahah

  • Meleah

    I LOVE YOU

  • You know what, Mel? You at least had the b^%$# to go out there and try it and the self respect to call it quits when you needed to. That’s a lot more than a lot of us (myself included) can say. I am petrified to date again. To risk. Anything. But, that means I also won’t have any different experience.

  • That is a relief… I really hope you do remain friends 🙂

  • Sounds like you called it right and were able to express things in a way he could understand. I’m so glad it didn’t get nasty.

    Now to start the healing process.

  • I am sorry to hear that things did not work out with Danny, but its great to know that your friendship is still strong. He sounds like a special guy, and we all know how special you are! I hate the depressed “I’m single again” feeling and I hope it passes over you quickly. Hug to you, Meleah.

  • Meleah

    Laurie:

    Thats TRUE. I did have enough balls to TRY…and I was smart enough to get out when I had too…but NOW I am feeling MUCH LIKE YOU.

    “I am petrified to date again. To risk. Anything. ”

    Um. yeah. Me too.

    Dawn:

    So do I. Time will tell. 🙂

    Hammer:

    I was DREADING nasty. DREADING. but then I realized we are also both adults now and donut have to go the ‘nasty’ route. I feel hopeful for a friendship in the future.

    Barbara:

    Id rather be SINGLE and lonely, than with someone and MISERABLE. I know how to do single. Oddly, I dont know HOW TO DATE.

  • I’m glad things worked out for both of you Meleah! It’s always good to think of the worse so when you do hear the reply, it’s not as bad as what you imagined.

  • “Id rather be SINGLE and lonely, than with someone and MISERABLE. ”

    ……nuf said. Thats all I have to say about that.

    Hugs, hugs and more hugs…and booze.

  • Lee

    I don’t want to throw a wet blanket on what appears to be a desirable outcome, but be careful. You won’t really know if you’re going to be able to preserve your friendship until some time has passed. Experience tells me that “giving each other space” and “we can still be friends” can mean very different things to men than it does to women. In a lot of cases, the man is thinking, “this is just another case of PMS and it will pass and we can get back to normal.” At the same time, the woman is thinking, “there’s no way that I want to be alone with this guy for a while. I need to figure out if there’s someone or something else for me. So, I’ll give it a year, and if I miss him after 12 months we’ll see what happens.”

  • Meleah

    Rolando:

    I really hope so

    SomeGirl:

    Amen. and booze! 🙂

    Lee:

    I thought about that…

    What if me asking / wanting to still be FRIENDS was sending the WRONG message? What if he is still hanging on to a shred of hope that ‘one day’ we will be ‘together’ ?

    Hmm. I dont know about waiting a YEAR as I just found him (after 6 years of lost contact) to be friends. I HOPE that we can ease into that alot sooner!

  • Yay! Relief is a good thing. I am glad for you.

  • from one of those with a simply wire brain….:)))) ..I am happy the best case scenario happened for you..:))…and I have 32 meme’s prepared…Just kidding…:))))))

  • So glad it turned out alright. Now, bring on those memes!

  • Always trust the feeling of relief as an excellent indicator that you did the right thing. Period.

  • Mental Hugs girl…keep breathing…I hear it helps!

  • Meleah

    OMyWord:

    Lets hope so.

    Robert:

    ha ha ha …tag me for all of em! ha ha ha.

    Avery:

    Well, Lets just give it sometime and hopefully it will turn out that way.

    HollyGL:

    Agreeed! I love you so much. Thank you for being here for me.

    Courtney:

    Thanks girl! Breathing helps… so does running on a TREADMILL for HOURS and letting a personal trainer KICK MY ASS in the Gym last night… I think Im going to be one sore woman tomorrow!

  • I recently reconnected with a very old friend after a 3 year break. We had only ever been friends in the past but this time went pretty quickly into a sexual relationship. It lasted all of four weeks before things went pear shaped! I told him exactly how I was feeling due to his actions and words and he took it extremely well. We decided to remain as friends and now, a month later, I can say it is really going to work out ok. We are better and closer friends than ever before – he is a lot more thoughtful toward me (and I hope I am to him too). We have actually deepened our friendship through these events. So have faith – it can happen and you don’t neccessarily need to wait for ages to clear the air.

  • Loz

    As Holly said relief is the best indicator – now for the deep breathes and moving forward once again. Don’t stress about not being in a relationship – you’ll know when you’re ready again 🙂

  • I am glad he reacted well. It is great you can still be friends. You dealt with this whole thing with such dignity. You are very courageous. I am also better with the written word but waiting for a reply is agonising. Good on you. Hope you don’t feel too sad.

  • Meleah

    Zenuria:

    Wow. Thanks for sharing all of that. That gives me hope.

    Loz:

    Ive been doing a lot of breathing…well more like panting after running like a fool on the tread mill!

    Selma:

    So am I. I did deal with this with dignity! didnt I? Yeay Me.

  • Wow I’m gone for a few days and all this crazy stuff is going down. I’m sorry to hear about the breakup but I’m glad you will be friends. You 2 have lots of history together and it should not just be thrown out the window. If the writing was thoughtful and honestt, I don’t think it un-classy. Some people are better expressing themselves in other ways. Writing is one. At least you didn’t text message him.

  • Meleah

    Ricardo:

    ha ha ha ha ha…text massage a break up. Thats so Britney Spears.

    Yeah, Um, a lot of shit went down these last few days….things are looking better. I cant sit around feeling sorry for myself or harboring resentments.

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