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Have You Ever – Volume Eight

Have you ever been totally-super-psyched because your brother’s getting married again, but you’re even more excited this time because you seriously love his bride and you’re thrilled she’s going to be the sister you’ve always wanted. And then you have the time of your life at your brother’s wedding, because it was the best wedding ever, and you couldn’t be happier.

But then, just 24 hours later, you receive a phone call, only to find out your ex-boyfriend, a man you loved very deeply, lost his battle with addiction and depression, and took his own life, leaving you utterly devastated and overwhelmed with anger and sadness, and you can’t even talk about it because it hurts too much.

And then, just 24 hours after that, you come down with the worst sickness of all time – second only to having pneumonia. And you just can’t deal with anything else or anyone else, so you close your blog, log out of Facebook, ignore emails and text messages, and stay in bed bed for an entire week, watching Six Feet Under, because you’re too sore from dancing at the wedding, and too sad from burying your lover, and too tired from the sickness.


Well – I do.

And it was awful.


But now it’s time to pick myself up, dust myself off, and attempt to rejoin society.

And there’s no better way to get back into the blogging zone other than a 30 Day Photo Challenge. Come September 1st be prepared to see daily posts from me based on the prompts provided by the hosts and two of my favorite people: Mike WJ and Ziva.

I hope YOU will consider joining us too?


Lastly, I’d like to share this incredible video with you.

It’s beautiful, poignant, and absolutely inspiring.



Here’s to second chances.

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  • Sometimes it is just too much. You’d had more than too much at once. I’m glad you’re back. xoxo

  • Lucy

    Oh, my gosh, I have been gone all day and just read this. I knew you got sick and you lost a loved one but not the details, how heartbreaking. Give yourself time, it is gonna take time. I am so glad you are doing the Photo challenge, it will help you ease into things and step out with your family and friends as your health allows xoxoxo

  • Thank you, Lisa.

    It really WAS too much.

  • Thank you, my darling friend.

    Honestly, the photo challenge could NOT have come at a better time.


  • ladyV

    good night, meleah. girlfriend, i’m always thinking of you and wishing you better health. so sorry about sonny, i didn’t know he ended it, a little part of me understands, but that has to hurt more that he didn’t reach out to those who loved him. something to ponder. i remember you called him puddy (sp?) from seinfeld.

    congrats to adm and you get better if you’re not already feeling better.

  • I am so sorry, Sweetheart. What a dreadful spell of events right after such a magical one.

  • I’m so very sorry for your loss. Addiction has so many ways of taking people from us. Like Sonny, my cousin killed himself on Thanksgiving Eve in 2011. Because I understand addiction and depression from my own personal experiences, I understand why this seems like a viable option to active addicts. Even with that understanding, it’s still unbearably painful to accept. Keeping you in my prayers as you heal physically from yet another bout of terrible illness and as you walk through your grief.

  • Thank you, Valerie.

    Yes! I totally used to call him “Putty/Puddy” from Seinfeld.
    Funny, how you remember that.



  • Seriously.

    I didn’t even know it was possible to go from being THAT HAPPY to THAT SAD in a matter of hours.

  • Thank you so much, Cheryl.

    This is VERY difficult to understand.

    And I am TERRIBLY sorry to hear about your cousin.


  • shadowrun300

    No, can’t say I’ve ever had ANY of that happen. Goodness gracious. I knew something was wrong, but couldn’t quite connect the dots til now. The fact that you’re picking yourself up once again, is quite inspirational. You’ve been knocked down more than anyone I know, yet you keep gettin’ back up and fighting the fight.
    Good to have you back again! We’ve missed you!

  • HeSaidHisTelephoneNumberWas911

    I love a groovy Melee.

  • It’s good to BE back, Shadow! I’ve missed all of you guys too. I just can’t spend another day in bed sobbing.

  • lolz

  • I’m so sorry for all the sorrow and illness. Your friend has just passed through a portal. His journey continues and along with it, his healing. Glad you’re now tending to your own healing. I won’t be doing the photo challenge, but I will stop by to visit and cheer you on. Big hugs!

  • Thank you, Jayne.

    “His journey continues and along with it, his healing”

    I like to believe that too.

    Sorry you wont be participating ­ but thank you for cheering me on!

  • silverneurotic

    I am so terribly sorry about your ex. That’s truly horrible.

  • Thank you, Nik.

    It’s been really tough coming to terms with this.

  • slyde

    wow, i think that, after 2 years, i can somehow start posting here from work again.
    sorry for your loss. i saw that you were watching 6 feet under, which, while certainly not a consolation, is a pretty damn good show. did you get to the end yet? favorite finale ever…..

  • I just finished season 4.

    I am going to spend all day Saturday watching season five, which is the last season.

    * You’re like the 5,000,000th person to tell me the series has the greatest finale of ALL time!

  • I’m so sorry about your ex-boyfriend. Really sad. A big swing of emotions in such a short period of time. Sometimes words just don’t cut it. See you September 1st for 30 days of photo obsession.

  • I’m so glad you’ll be joining the insanity, Lauren!

  • kellypea

    I think my head was spinning on your behalf when I saw these events together on FB and wondered. I’ve had you in my thoughts and you’ll stay there until it seems you’re kicking butt and taking names again. Please take care.

  • Thank you, my love.

    It’s been a tough few weeks. But thankfully, I’m starting to feel better.

  • Sending you sooo much love and prayer. I know you, though, and you will so pick yourself up and I cannot wait to see your photos!
    Big Texas Love!

  • agg79

    Mel, I am so sorry that all this shit has been heaped on your shoulders. The emotional highs and lows you’ve had over the past few weeks would definitely drive anybody, to quote your expression, bat shit crazy. We understand why you don’t have the energy or motivation to go on line, but if you need a friend, we’ve got you back. Just wish I could give you a hug – i think you need one about now.

    I think it is great you are taking up the photo a day challenge – I look forward to seeing the jewels Mel will share with us. Just as long as their not the family jewels. We don’t want to start another Weinergate…

  • You’re the best! Thank you!

  • Thank you so much, Agg.

    I’m ready to get out of bed and rejoin the land if the living.
    And honestly, the photo challenge couldn’t have come at a better time. I need the distraction and interaction more than ever!

    Also, LOLZ @ Weinergate!


  • 🙁 I’m so sorry. There aren’t words to express it. I too am using 30 Days to help me get out of a funk. So far, I’m finding it’s helping me. I hope it helps you too.

  • I’ve been preparing for the challenge all week ­ and it’s helped immensely. Can’t wait to see what everyone else comes up with!


  • Wow, I’m having the worse week and you are just about tied with me. Wonder Twin powers, activate! All my luck hopes to you, girl!

  • Oh, Mel, I’m so very sorry for your loss! It’s so unfair. But you, girl! Your are a fighter! Hell, you’re a warrior! You fight all the crap life throws at you like no one I’ve ever known. Joining the 30 day photo challenge is such a positive thing to do in the face of everything you’re dealing with lately. You are inspiring. Keep fighting!

  • Amy ­ Fuck the whole month of August! Here’s hoping September won’t suck!

  • Thank you, Terri.

    Staying busy and interacting with y’all is the best thing for me right now!

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