Comments on: Friendships http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718 Vodka Is Great, But This Isn't Half Bad Fri, 10 Sep 2010 14:50:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Meleah http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4672 Meleah Sun, 23 Sep 2007 23:24:32 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4672 He called. He called.

]]> By: magickat http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4669 magickat Sat, 22 Sep 2007 14:53:31 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4669 I stopped by to read one of your stories and then this one happened. Wow - you really shared from the heart that. I am sorry you lost your friend. It is so crushing to read how you're feeling. I've been there and it's terrible. It's like losing a part of you. And to be completely cut off it's almost like someone has died. I wonder why your friend is gone? It's such a shame. You really seem to love him so much. So sorry. I stopped by to read one of your stories and then this one happened. Wow – you really shared from the heart that. I am sorry you lost your friend. It is so crushing to read how you’re feeling. I’ve been there and it’s terrible. It’s like losing a part of you. And to be completely cut off it’s almost like someone has died.

I wonder why your friend is gone? It’s such a shame. You really seem to love him so much.

So sorry.

]]> By: dan leone http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4667 dan leone Sat, 22 Sep 2007 06:04:41 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4667 I am sorry. I am sorry.

]]> By: Meleah http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4659 Meleah Fri, 21 Sep 2007 13:36:48 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4659 HAMMER: Thanks. Wow 10 years later? I sure hope I feel better in 10 DAYS from now. -------- Greg: There is NO point in confronting him. That would be an exercise in futility. --------- Holly: * I miss you* Maybe I said something that hurt him? Maybe I crossed an invisible line?? Maybe I needed him too much and he couldn't take it anymore? Maybe he had a crush on me like you said. WHO KNOWS. I sure don't. I can make all kinds of accusations and speculations, but that is just a WASTE of TIME. The fact remains, he no longer wants to be a part of my life. I have to live with that. deal with that. process that. and THEN I can 'move on.' ---------- MsQ: I will. ---------- Kellypea: No, he is / was NOT my ONLY friend. But, he was the ONLY friend I was completely honest with. About EVERYTHING. Maybe thats what scared him off. Maybe I am just too fucked up. ---------- Lis: Yup. That is pretty much the deal. HAMMER:

Thanks. Wow 10 years later? I sure hope I feel better in 10 DAYS from now.
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Greg:

There is NO point in confronting him. That would be an exercise in futility.
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Holly: * I miss you*

Maybe I said something that hurt him? Maybe I crossed an invisible line?? Maybe I needed him too much and he couldn’t take it anymore? Maybe he had a crush on me like you said. WHO KNOWS. I sure don’t. I can make all kinds of accusations and speculations, but that is just a WASTE of TIME. The fact remains, he no longer wants to be a part of my life. I have to live with that. deal with that. process that. and THEN I can ‘move on.’
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MsQ:

I will.
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Kellypea:

No, he is / was NOT my ONLY friend. But, he was the ONLY friend I was completely honest with. About EVERYTHING. Maybe thats what scared him off. Maybe I am just too fucked up.
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Lis:

Yup. That is pretty much the deal.

]]> By: Lis http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4657 Lis Fri, 21 Sep 2007 09:02:34 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4657 I went through the exact same thing many years ago. Guy and I were best friends, could talk about anything etc.. Then one day, everything suddenly ended. When I called him to find out WTF was happening, he'd either hang up or tell me HE's not home. Nobody around us (we had lots of mutual friends) knew why this was happening. If they did, they sure as hell weren't telling me. I was really sad at first, then I got really angry. It was really WTF for me. Till this day, I don't know what the hell happened and I haven't seen him since. Like you, I had no closure. Now I no longer care. If this is what our friendship meant to him, then so be it. It will take time, but things will get better. I went through the exact same thing many years ago. Guy and I were best friends, could talk about anything etc.. Then one day, everything suddenly ended. When I called him to find out WTF was happening, he’d either hang up or tell me HE’s not home. Nobody around us (we had lots of mutual friends) knew why this was happening. If they did, they sure as hell weren’t telling me. I was really sad at first, then I got really angry. It was really WTF for me. Till this day, I don’t know what the hell happened and I haven’t seen him since. Like you, I had no closure. Now I no longer care. If this is what our friendship meant to him, then so be it.

It will take time, but things will get better.

]]> By: kellypea http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4655 kellypea Fri, 21 Sep 2007 05:17:30 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4655 Um. Is he only your friend? Really? Um. Is he only your friend? Really?

]]> By: Ms. Q http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4654 Ms. Q Fri, 21 Sep 2007 05:05:33 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4654 Everyone before me has said it all. I just wanted to say that I wish you weren't hurting and it is awful to lose a friend and not know why. It's difficult to let go or grieve without some sense of the why, having some closure. Like HollyGL said, "Just work through your feelings, and take care of yourself." Everyone before me has said it all. I just wanted to say that I wish you weren’t hurting and it is awful to lose a friend and not know why. It’s difficult to let go or grieve without some sense of the why, having some closure.

Like HollyGL said, “Just work through your feelings, and take care of yourself.”

]]> By: HollyGL http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4653 HollyGL Fri, 21 Sep 2007 03:53:10 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4653 Well, my first thought while reading this was that he had developed romantic feelings for you, and felt they would always be unrequited, so he decided to cut you off cold because it was too painful for him to be in contact with you. Yes, I can go off on my little imaginative tangents. The bottom line is this: yes, you have every right to be pissed off; yes, whatever the problem, its HIS problem since he can't even step up to the plate enough - out of sheer respect for you and the friendship - to share it with you; and no, it is not worth one minute more contemplation than the time it takes for you to reach a place of release. Just work through your feelings, and take care of yourself. There are too many cool things going on in your life right now to devote any more energy to him or the situation than is necessary for you to move on. Well, my first thought while reading this was that he had developed romantic feelings for you, and felt they would always be unrequited, so he decided to cut you off cold because it was too painful for him to be in contact with you. Yes, I can go off on my little imaginative tangents.

The bottom line is this: yes, you have every right to be pissed off; yes, whatever the problem, its HIS problem since he can’t even step up to the plate enough – out of sheer respect for you and the friendship – to share it with you; and no, it is not worth one minute more contemplation than the time it takes for you to reach a place of release.

Just work through your feelings, and take care of yourself. There are too many cool things going on in your life right now to devote any more energy to him or the situation than is necessary for you to move on.

]]> By: Greg http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4652 Greg Fri, 21 Sep 2007 03:40:28 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4652 You can be sad, angry, or whatever emotion suits you. But what is the point of confronting someone in a situation like this? Do you think it will make it better or worse? Most likely just worse. If he is a typical human being he has continued to read your blog and has read everything you've said, and what others have said. He's still chosen to maintain his direction. If you were really his friend at one point, then let him go where he feels he needs to go. He only needs an explanation if he decides to come back. Direct all that energy to something that will benefit you. You can be sad, angry, or whatever emotion suits you. But what is the point of confronting someone in a situation like this? Do you think it will make it better or worse? Most likely just worse.

If he is a typical human being he has continued to read your blog and has read everything you’ve said, and what others have said. He’s still chosen to maintain his direction. If you were really his friend at one point, then let him go where he feels he needs to go. He only needs an explanation if he decides to come back.

Direct all that energy to something that will benefit you.

]]> By: Hammer http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718&cpage=1#comment-4650 Hammer Fri, 21 Sep 2007 02:06:39 +0000 http://mommamiameaculpa.com/?p=718#comment-4650 I have expericnced the same thing and it still bothers me 10 years later. It's their problem not yours. Sorry you're going through it I have expericnced the same thing and it still bothers me 10 years later.

It’s their problem not yours.

Sorry you’re going through it

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